Grieving Beyond Gender
Understanding the Ways Men and Women Mourn, Revised Edition
Routledge – 2010 – 258 pages
Grieving Beyond Gender: Understanding the Ways Men and Women Mourn is a revision of Men Don’t Cry, Women Do: Transcending Gender Stereotypes of Grief. In this work, Doka and Martin elaborate on their conceptual model of "styles or patterns of grieving" – a model that has generated both research and acceptance since the publication of the first edition in 1999. In that book, as well as in this revision, Doka and Martin explore the different ways that individuals grieve, noting that gender is only one factor that affects an individual’s style or pattern of grief. The book differentiates intuitive grievers, where the pattern is more affective, from instrumental grievers, who grieve in a more cognitive and behavioral way, while noting other patterns that might be more blended or dissonant. The model is firmly grounded in social science theory and research. A particular strength of the work is the emphasis placed on the clinical implications of the model on the ways that different types of grievers might best be supported through individual counseling or group support.
"This book reminds us of the unique nature of the end of life and that one size does not fit all. It reminds us also of the highly complex, individual nature of grief." - Cruse Bereavement Care
"This new book offers a revised and expanded look at instrumental and intuitive grieving, and it makes for engaging, thought-provoking reading. Doka and Martin’s book represents a significant advance in thinking about bereavement, grief, and mourning. It offers that rare gift: a powerful conceptual framework for organizing one’s whole thinking about doing bereavement research and counseling the bereaved. The ideas of intuitive and instrumental grieving offer conceptual scaffolding both researchers and practitioners can understand and use to communicate with one another. This book contains possibilities for collaboration between researchers and practitioners to bridge the gap that separates them; even more important, it offers possibilities of working together as equals on projects of interest to both." - Death Studies, , 2011
"Grieving Beyond Gender is an important book that challenges widely accepted assumptions about grief… valuable reading not only for clinicians, grief counselors, hospice workers, and other professionals working with the bereaved, but also for graudate students in courses on death, dying, and aging." - Deborah Carr, Psychology of Women Quarterly
Part I: Patterns of Grief. Introduction and Plan of the Book. Definitions: Understanding Grief. Patterns of Grief: Intuitive Grievers. Instrumental Grievers. Dissonant Responses. Part II: Pathways to Patterns. Personality as a Shaper of Patterns. The Role of Gender. Culture as a Shaping Agent. Part III: Implications and Interventions. Adaptive Strategies: Implications for Counselors. Strategies for Self-Help and Intervention: The Need for Interventive Intentionality. Conclusion.
Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D., is a Professor of Gerontology at the Graduate School of The College of New Rochelle and Senior Consultant to the Hospice Foundation of America.
Terry L. Martin, Ph.D., is Associate Professor of Psychology and Thanatology at Hood College, and maintains a private practice in Maryland.