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Finding a Lover for Life

A Gay Man's Guide to Finding a Lasting Relationship

By John Dececco, Phd, David Price

Routledge – 2001 – 160 pages

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Description

Develop healthy, lasting relationships!

Here is a terrific dating guide for single gay and bisexual men. This insightful book provides a proven strategy for creating a satisfying dating life and finding a partner who is right for you! It integrates theory and practice to help you create and develop healthy relationships, guiding you through the process of dating and relationship formation. Finding a Lover for Life comes complete with thought-provoking worksheets that challenge myths, false beliefs, and incorrect assumptions about gay/bi men, dating, and relationships.

Finding a Lover for Life will save you a great deal of time and frustration in developing dating skills. Its rational, skills-based strategic approach to dating will help you plan, organize, and focus your efforts in that part of your life.

Finding a Lover for Life is the tool you need to plan and implement strategies that will:

  • attract available dating partners
  • eliminate problems by identifying compatible and noncompatible partners
  • create a healthy relationship
It also takes you through an individual preparation routine for dating that will help you to:
  • challenge societal views of romance
  • uncover self-defeating beliefs
  • resolve past conflicts
  • create affirming and self-enabling beliefs
This book will help you learn to date in a healthy and efficient way. But more than that, Finding a Lover for Life will help you develop a more positive self-concept, create a healthy community of friends, and help you move your life in a new, more constructive direction.

Contents

Contents

  • Foreword
  • Introduction: The Process or Preparation in Finding a Long-Term Partner
  • Part I. Preparation Stage--Preparing Yourself for a Lasting Relationship
  • Chapter 1. Stop Running from Commitment
  • Chapter 2. Have a Plan to Find Your Man
  • Chapter 3. Face Your Fears of Getting Close
  • Chapter 4. Don't Try to Succeed Alone
  • Chapter 5. Prepare Yourself Emotionally
  • Chapter 6. Let Go of Old Entanglements
  • Chapter 7. Make Room for a Relationship
  • Part II. Action Stage--Putting Action with Your Wishes
  • Chapter 8. Make a Compatibility Inventory
  • Chapter 9. Decide Whom You Want to Be
  • Chapter 10. Develop Your Values and Standards
  • Chapter 11. Invest in Your Dating Plan
  • Chapter 12. Dealing with Failure and Setbacks
  • Chapter 13. Watch Out for the Hidden Dangers
  • Chapter 14. Keep Up Your Momentum
  • Part III. Completion Stage--Finding and Keeping a Lasting Relationship
  • Chapter 15. Gather Information on the Date
  • Chapter 16. Open Up and Let Others In
  • Chapter 17. Take Time to Get to Know Others
  • Chapter 18. Learn from Your Bad Dates
  • Chapter 19. Don't Give Up When You Get Discouraged
  • Chapter 20. Remember to Stay Focused
  • Chapter 21. Let the Relationship Happen
  • Chapter 22. Keep the Lover You Find by Continuing to Grow
  • Appendix: Dating Journal
  • Bibliography
  • Index
  • Reference Notes Included

Related Subjects

  1. Gay & Lesbian Studies

Name: Finding a Lover for Life: A Gay Man's Guide to Finding a Lasting Relationship (Paperback)Routledge 
Description: By John Dececco, Phd, David Price. Develop healthy, lasting relationships!Here is a terrific dating guide for single gay and bisexual men. This insightful book provides a proven strategy for creating a satisfying dating life and finding a partner who is right for you! It integrates theory...
Categories: Gay & Lesbian Studies