Surviving and Moving On
Self Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
By Kim McGregor
Foreword by Louise Nicholas
Willan – 2009 – 464 pages
This book is essential reading for any survivor of child sexual abuse, female or male. Many survivors of sexual abuse have not always been believed or supported through their developmental years. They have had to cope on their own, dealing with the aftermath of the abuse in whatever ways they could. This book offers ideas and techniques for understanding and healing which adult survivors in particular may find useful. It tends to be written with women in mind, but much of the information and many of the exercises may be useful for male survivors as well.
This book will also be useful for the partners, families and friends giving support and encouragement to survivors who are healing themselves from the effects of abuse. Many survivors want those around them to understand what they've survived and its effects on their life.
Part 1 provides information about child sexual abuse - what it is, why children remain silent about it, some of the effects abuse can have on a survivor's life and how these can be minimised, and who the offenders are. Part 2 is for survivors, helping them to understand and to cope with their unique experience of child sexual abuse. Part 3 is specifically for supporters and caregivers of survivors.
'Surviving and Moving On is an essential must read for anyone working in the sexual violence sector.
As well as an excellent overview of the nature and impact of sexual abuse the book includes information on how the effects can be minimised so that survivors can be empowered to move on with their lives.
I would recommend 'Surviving and Moving On' to a range of audiences - including academics, students, support workers, counsellors, staff and volunteers in Rape Crisis Centres, health care practitioners and survivors of sexual abuse.'– Dr Nicole Westmarland, Chair of Rape Crisis (England and Wales), Lecturer at Durham University
Foreword, Acknowledgements, Preface, Introduction Part 1: Surviving 1. About Child Sexual Abuse 2. The Child 3. The Consequences 4. The Offender Part 2: Moving On 5. Preparations for Your Healing Journey 6. Dealing with the Abuse 7. Recognising Ways You Have Coped 8. Making Changes 9. Dealing with Feelings and Emotions 10. Safe Ways of Expressing Anger 11. Getting Rid of Self-blame 12. Physical Effects and Healing 13. Sexual Abuse and Sex 14. When Abuse is Within the Family 15. Confronting the Offender 16. Counselling 17. Getting Past the Abuse and Moving On 18. Moving Further on in Our Healing Part 3: For Others 19. For Caregivers of Survivors 20. Living With a Survivor Appendix 1 Keeping children safe, Appendix 2 Normal childhood sexual development, Appendix 3 Notes for counsellors, Appendix 4 Message to offenders Resources